From an interview with Tor Ulven, loosely translated:
No one decides to become who they become. You do not know who you are until you are someone, and then you are someone for a while, and then you are someone else. Always someone else. Or you are no one.
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Currently there is a lot of talk about becoming so-called whole persons, whatever that is. We have no chance of doing so. We will keep limping our way through life, because there is always something we lack. In every situation, at any time. Whoever we are. No need, no desire is ever definitely satisfied.